June 2020
Although I’m not the author of these quotes, this describes people I’ve known in my life. This stuff is too good not to post:
“When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”
“How do you know if someone is a narcissist?
- Everything will revolve around this person. It will be all about their needs, their wants, their life.
- Nothing will ever be their fault. Even with evidence to the contrary, it still is never their fault.
- They neglect you, take you for granted, and never make you feel important or valuable.
- Selfish is an understatement when you are dealing with them.
- They lack empathy and compassion and the only feelings they care about is their own.
- Everyone around them are objects to be used for their own gratification or needs.”
“It is narcissism, which often manifests itself as a profound sense of entitlement, a constant need for adoration and excessive attention from others, and, most significantly in this context, a lack of empathy for others?”
“Profile of the Sociopath
- Glibness and Superficial Charm
- Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims. - Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as “their right.” - Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests. - Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way. - Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises. - Incapacity for Love
- Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common. - Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others’ feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. - Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. - Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet “gets by” by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc. - Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others’ lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed. - Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity”
“Traits of a narcissistic sociopath – They’ll insult, belittle and criticize you (sometimes in a teasing/joking way), pushing your boundries until you finally speak up. Then they use your reactions to make you seem crazy. Within weeks, they can turn an easy-going person into a hot mess of insecurities and self-doubt.”
Sources: https://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html, https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm, https://www.madeofmillions.com/conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder?gclid=EAIaIQobChMInKmYiv_26QIVodSzCh2hLwywEAAYASAAEgKYLPD_BwE.